Ready for a New You in 2019?

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These last two months of holidays have been rough on a lot of people who live with an alcoholic or an addict. For some, it was a turning point for making a decision to focus on getting their life back, no matter what.

But where do you start? How is this accomplished? This is why I wrote my books for you. I was once in your shoes — with my life sucked out of me and I didn’t know what to do or who to turn to for help.

Over time I learned how to focus on allowing me to be me (instead of dominated and controlled by my ex-husband). But what does that look like?

In my book I teach you how to discover your passion in life and to start dreaming again. If you can bring that activity into your life at least on a weekly basis, it will give you something to look forward to as you go through the ups and downs of daily living.

Your passion doesn’t have to be your career. It can be any activity where you get really, really excited when you do it. Take a moment to think about what really excites you. Can you bring that activity back into your life? When will you do that? Write down the day you plan to start.

One more thing – what excuses are you telling yourself on why you can’t do this? Not enough time. No money. No one to watch the children. Not enough hours in the day. If I do it, it will upset the addict in my life even more. Even if the excuses appear to be true, you’ve got to do something to change your daily habits and routines. Nothing changes in life if nothing changes!

A “new you” develops through the small steps you take. As you add more steps — which I will teach you — then momentum begins to build, along with hope for a brighter future this year.

Letter to Wives of Addicts

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Dear Spouse of an Addict,

Society focuses on the Opioid epidemic …
But where’s the help for you?
The addict gets to escape his or her problems …
While you struggle to do the work of two people.
You get blamed for his or her drinking or drugs.
How much more bullshit can you take?

You are weary and worn down.
Your life of secrecy is unbearable.
Your trust is shattered, yet you still hope.
Things weren’t supposed to turn out this way!
Where do you turn?
Who will listen to your silent cry?

You have not been forgotten!
I hear your cry.
I feel your broken heart.
I know that your confusion is not easy to navigate.
You feel trapped.
Can’t fix your spouse.
You may not have the resources to change your life.

I wrote my book for you.
There is hope.
There is a process to follow.
Society may never rally to help you.
But I am rallying for you!

You are loveable!
Your courage shows up every morning.
You are a unique person.
Your fantastic future awaits to be discovered.

Are you willing to take the steps to get there?
My book will guide you.

Yes, one day your heart of love will soar again
and happiness shine on your face.

Love,
Kathy Williamson
A Renegade Influencer To
Create an Addiction-Free World

How To Survive The Holidays

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Addicts get triggered more during the holiday seasons, especially Christmas. Since they haven’t resolved any underlying issues that they are abusing drugs and alcohol to escape from, they don’t know how to handle their negative emotions. Even the thought of going through the holiday season is enough to have an addict running to his or her addiction.

How can you, as the friend or spouse of the addict, handle the behavior of the addict during this stressful time? It depends upon where you are in your ability to handle the day-to-day actions of the addict. It will require you to know how to “detach” to a certain degree and keep your focus on things you can control. There are several things you can do to maintain your sanity during this time.

  • Keep your expectations realistic. Although the addict may make many promises that he or she will act appropriately and/or not abuse alcohol or drugs, you know from your past that he or she is not always able to keep these promises.
  • If you have children at an age where they can understand what is going on (the addiction), you can sit down with them ahead of time and share with them your strategy on how things will be handled if (1) the addict gets drunk or high on drugs; (2) becomes emotionally out-of-control; (3) the addict does not show up at a planned event; (4) or whatever type of behavior is unsuitable to you and your family.
  • Strategies: (1) You can advise your addict friend or spouse of your strategy should he end up in one of the above situations; (2) You can have a back-up driver available to drive the addict home; (3) While attending a party or family gathering you can go to a different room than where your friend or spouse is to maintain your calm attitude.
  • Decide ahead of time how you will keep yourself calm and collected. Make the decision you will not “react” to the addict’s behavior. Have something planned after the holiday that you want to do and use that event as a focus to keep your thoughts turned toward.

For more information on how to use my Roadmap Out of Addiction to influence the addict as well as take back your life, sign up for my free report on the right.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas!
Kathy

Ready to Influence the Addict?

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I know most people are taught that you cannot change an addict, so why try? I am here to tell you that while we cannot change other people, we can influence them to change. Think about this: would we say we cannot change a toddler? Of course not. Why? Because there are lots of books on the topic of how to change a toddler’s behavior and they pretty much all cover the same problems and ideas on how to solve them.

But for people with an addiction–there is no “one way” to help all addicts. Until now. My “Roadmap Out of Addiction” process teaches the underlying principles that any addict can use to get out of his or her addiction forever. Because I came out of my own 10 year addiction, I know the struggles inside an addict’s thoughts. I also came up with a way to get out of addiction using strategies not taught in today’s recovery programs.

Besides helping addicts, I want to help the friends and family members, especially the spouses, of addicts. In my upcoming book to be released on February 1, 2018 I show the friends and family members how to use the Roadmap Out of Addiction to influence the addict to change, as well as how to use it in their lives for any problems they are going through.

I hear a lot about there is no “one size fits all” process to help addicts. That’s because they have not uncovered what really causes addictions and the process to get out of them. I have yet to see two rehab facilities offer the same program. It is a bunch of hit-and-miss assortment of methods.

If you want to learn how to influence the addict in your life, as well as get hope back for normalcy in your life, I encourage you to click on the above tab labeled “Book” and see for yourself what you can do.