These last two months of holidays have been rough on a lot of people who live with an alcoholic or an addict. For some, it was a turning point for making a decision to focus on getting their life back, no matter what.

But where do you start? How is this accomplished? This is why I wrote my books for you. I was once in your shoes — with my life sucked out of me and I didn’t know what to do or who to turn to for help.

Over time I learned how to focus on allowing me to be me (instead of dominated and controlled by my ex-husband). But what does that look like?

In my book I teach you how to discover your passion in life and to start dreaming again. If you can bring that activity into your life at least on a weekly basis, it will give you something to look forward to as you go through the ups and downs of daily living.

Your passion doesn’t have to be your career. It can be any activity where you get really, really excited when you do it. Take a moment to think about what really excites you. Can you bring that activity back into your life? When will you do that? Write down the day you plan to start.

One more thing – what excuses are you telling yourself on why you can’t do this? Not enough time. No money. No one to watch the children. Not enough hours in the day. If I do it, it will upset the addict in my life even more. Even if the excuses appear to be true, you’ve got to do something to change your daily habits and routines. Nothing changes in life if nothing changes!

A “new you” develops through the small steps you take. As you add more steps — which I will teach you — then momentum begins to build, along with hope for a brighter future this year.